Suffering Pays Off by: Bera Dogan

Suffering Pays Off

I believe that the more you suffer, the more courage and passion it gives you to overcome the obstacle you’re facing. Suffering fires up the will, that has been inside but with no driving force, to give you courage. Once I understood that, and my emotions, I simply just used them.

Throughout my life, I’ve suffered from being shy, shy of my thoughts, ideals, beliefs, the things that were unique to me. Even staying with people freely was out of the question, always trying to blend in with them, paying attention to them, trying to be nobody in the eyes of others. After utterly suffering, I realized that I needed to open up and stop trying to hide . Until I had enough boldness, I kept reminding myself the suffering I had to endure, and then I took the risk. The risk of people seeing me, my true self, me that has been hidden under the thick covers of shyness. The only support I had was my suffering, ironic, right?

I believe that sometimes, your only allies are your emotion, or your enemies instead.

The experience gave me lots of things to reflect on, valuable lessons. Lessons I learned gave me a new way of looking at things, such as understanding your emotions and using them to your advantage. This new belief I had even helped me to ease my life a little. Just knowing that being in distress would eventually help you, makes it easy to undergo those hard times.

The new perspective I had helped me better understand people’s feelings and helped me understand that suffering one day truly pays off.